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Couples Counseling + Marriage Counseling

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Resolve Problems + Deepen Connection

Are you looking for couples therapy that goes beyond the words? A couples therapy that considers your nervous system and bodily responses to connection?

Are you struggling to connect because there is a breakdown in communication? Do you find intimacy challenging and it is harming your relationship? Do you, or your partner/s, focus more on work, alcohol, or other people than on the relationship? Or are you fighting about the same things over and over and struggling to find a solution?

Are you foreseeing a break-up, and wondering if there is anything you can try first? Is the passion gone, and you find yourself wanting more sex than you’re having? Are you surviving infidelity? Or are you about to get married and considering premarital counseling? 

PRACTITIONERS

Chris Cannon

Master of Clinical Counseling
Somatic Psychotherapist

Why Couples Counseling?

Relationships can be extremely challenging. After some time together, many of us begin to feel disconnected, questioning whether or not we should break up or get a divorce. Or maybe we check out, become emotionally unavailable, and feel less and less for each other. We can feel lonely in our relationship, and it hurts. 

Sometimes we may aim that hurt at our partner/s or vice versa. We find ourselves annoyed by many things they do. Or we cannot seem to have a serious conversation without fighting.

Some of us may be surviving infidelity, and are wondering if we can ever trust again. Or perhaps there was an emotional affair and our feelings are deeply hurt. The list goes on and on.

It is natural for relationships to have problems.

It sucks, but it is natural and to be expected.

When we enter into intimate relationships, we share our thoughts, emotions, and dreams. Our partner’s problems become our problems, and we give them our bodies in sex. This is vulnerability. We open internal doors that we open for few others. For most of us, the last time we were this open and vulnerable was in past relationships, or as a child in our parents’ care. Because of this, intimate relationships bring out parts of ourselves that have often not been touched since we were young and still learning how to connect.

The way we learned to be in relationship as infants greatly influences the way we show up in relationships as adults. Our style of relating—known as our attachment style—is programmed early, but, thankfully, can be reprogrammed at any time.

We now know that when we are triggered in a relationship, the part of our brain that registers threat is highly activated. We also know that this sense of threat is often related to past wounding that occurred in a relationship. Fortunately, this wound heals wonderfully in intimate relationships when the proper conditions are in place.

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How Can Couples Counseling Help?

What to Expect . . .

We start by investigating the issues arising in the relationship. We address these through the triggers that happen in real-time during our discussion. What is often found after applying mindful awareness to these issues: early attachment problems affecting our current relationship. We then learn how to tend to those in ourselves and in each other.

Finally, we will teach you time-tested methods of working with destructive cycles that often come about because of these younger issues. This work can contribute not only to the repair of the relationship but to the healing of each of us as individuals.

It is challenging and extremely rewarding work. With attention, intimate relationships can be our greatest source of inspiration and repair.

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