Who does not love to be protected? Can you remember a time when someone stuck up for you in public?
10 Pieces of Relationship Advice for Building Secure Attachment (Thanks, Stan Tatkin)
Romantic relationships can be hard. Like, really f’ing hard. And it can be so nice to have help given to us in the form of a succinct list.
Addiction as Protection + Protection as Addiction
Psychology Responds to Physiology In my last blog post, I spoke about the way we use addiction as a means of dealing with chronic nervous…
Why SOMATIC psychotherapy…
If you will indulge me…Take your right hand and begin massaging your left index finger. Start out gently and slowly use more force so that y
At Home on Earth: Lessons on Being Enough
How much of how we live our lives revolves around a deep feeling of not being enough? Enough, just as we are, worthy of money, of respect, of good fortune, of love.
Shadow Work: Finding Wholeness in Relationship
I grew up in a family that seemed normal and healthy to me—what else would I have been able to compare it to? Only years after I left home and found myself encountering
Trauma and the Unlived Life – Grieving What We’ve Lost
My tween years were filled with adventures, made invaluable by my close-knit and friendly circle. I remember spending a whole summer at an outdoor camp near Bull Harbor, a small
The Child within Remembers: An Inner Child Healing Poem
After a recent session focusing on inner child healing, a client of mine wrote this beautiful poem. I received permission from her to share it, because I think it so powerfully captures
Hypervigilance vs Healthy Vigilance: The Trauma of Marginalization
You’re a woman in her early thirties, dressed nicely, and on the bus coming home from work. It’s about 7pm, and dusk is arriving. You take your usual seat on the bus and